(What a recent study reveals about why so many women feel overwhelmed, stuck, and exhausted, even when they’re “high-functioning”)
I recently watched a video from Kati Morton that perfectly captured something I’ve been feeling for years. She broke down a brand-new research study on ADHD in adults, and it finally put words to experiences I thought were just “me being bad at adulting.”
If you’re a woman who was never diagnosed as a kid, who masks really well on the outside but feels completely drained on the inside, this might feel validating too.
Important Disclaimer: This post is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. I’m sharing this as someone with my own ADHD journey; always consult a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis or treatment.
Here are the 9 key symptom categories highlighted in the study (and how they show up in real life for many women):
1. Inattention, Hyperactivity & Impulsivity
(The classic ones we already know about)
2. Disorganization
It’s not just a messy house. It’s struggling to do things in the right sequence, manage a home, or follow through on plans without feeling completely overwhelmed.
Real Result for me: Even with lists, I can feel paralyzed by the steps needed to get started.
3. Forgetfulness
Beyond forgetting chores, it’s losing track of appointments, recent conversations, or constantly misplacing things because the memory didn’t fully “encode.”
Real Result for me: I lose one of my 2 phones multiple times each day. Argh!!
4. Activation (Task Initiation)
The massive difficulty starting tasks; even ones you want to do. The brain needs urgency, interest, or external pressure to get going. This one creates so much shame.
Real Result for me: My to-do list often makes me freeze instead of helping.
5. Emotional Dysregulation
Emotions hit fast and big. Rejection sensitivity, intense mood swings, or feeling everything at full volume.
Real Result for me: A last minute change of plans sends me completely over the edge (even though I know it’s not rational).
6. Time Blindness
Struggling to accurately sense how long tasks will take or manage time effectively.
Real Result for me: Every morning I think I have plenty of time to get ready for work, but still end up rushing out the door.
7. Executive Dysfunction
Difficulty with planning, prioritizing, and working memory — the behind-the-scenes brain functions that make everyday life feel harder than it “should.”
Real Result for me: If I don’t write things down or add to my calendar immediately, I’m in trouble.
8. Sleep Problems & Fatigue
Many adults with ADHD struggle with falling asleep, staying asleep, or waking up feeling rested (even when they get enough hours).
Real Result for me: Even when I get in bed at a “good time”, I often lay there for hours while my mind races.
9. Sensory Sensitivities & Overwhelm
Being easily overstimulated by noise, lights, textures, or too many things happening at once.
Real Result for me: One of my hairs touching my face where it shouldn’t makes me feel crazy, which isn’t great since I have long hair.
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Final Thoughts
Kati does a beautiful job explaining why so many women fly under the radar for decades: we learn to mask, compensate, and people-please until the system eventually breaks down in adulthood.
Watching this made me feel so much less alone. If you’ve spent years thinking you’re just anxious, lazy, or overly sensitive – there might be a different explanation. Understanding your brain better is the first step toward working with it instead of against it.
Have any of these resonated with you? Drop a comment below — I read every single one.
-Mere Penny
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